Manual № 93 · Emotional intelligence

Reading the Room

The manual for emotional intelligence.

Name what you feel, read what they feel, and check the guess before you act on it.

12 modules · for the adult who wants to understand their own emotions and other people's, and use that well at home and at work

  1. 01Four Skills, Not a Score
  2. 02When This Is Not the Right Tool
  3. 03What the Research Actually Shows
  4. 04Naming It Precisely
  5. 05What Your Body Is Telling You
  6. 06What Emotions Are For
  1. 07Reading Other People: Faces, Voices, and Context
  2. 08Empathy, Projection, and Asking Instead of Guessing
  3. 09Managing Your Own Emotions
  4. 10Influencing How Others Feel, and the Line You Do Not Cross
  5. 11In Conflict, Feedback, and Leadership
  6. 12Your Plan for the Rooms That Matter

Two editions

The manual, or the manual and the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how good the support actually is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you have one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01Two Questions, Then the Word
  2. 02Put It Into Words
  3. 03The Ninety-Second Body Check
  4. 04Check the Facts
  5. 05The ABCDE Record for Social Reads
  6. 06Context Before Face
  7. 07The Curious Question
  1. 08Validation Without Agreement
  2. 09Changing the Meaning, On Purpose
  3. 10Acting Against the Urge
  4. 11Room for the Feeling
  5. 12The Planned Break
  6. 13When You Read It Right
  7. 14The Weekly Honest Review

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