Manual № 45 · Recovering from a narcissistic or emotionally abusive relationship
AftertheFog
The manual for recovering from a narcissistic or emotionally abusive relationship.
Getting your own perception back.
12 modules — for the person coming out of a relationship that rewrote their sense of reality
- 01What Was Actually Happening
- 02A Plan for the Next Bad Night
- 03Why Leaving Was So Hard
- 04Getting Your Perception Back
- 05Contact, and What It Costs
- 06The Self-Blame Audit
- 07Grieving Two People
- 08Boundaries That Do Not Need Their Agreement
- 09When You Cannot Fully Get Away
- 10The Body That Is Still Braced
- 11People, Again
- 12Staying Out of the Fog
Two editions
Themanual,orthemanualand the toolkit.
Standard edition
The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.
Elite edition · most complete
Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how strong the evidence for it actually is. With original diagrams throughout.
Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.
Inside The Toolkit
- 01The Pattern, Drawn
- 02The Schedule That Kept You There
- 03Writing It Down at the Time
- 04The Window You Can Think In
- 05Stuck Points, Written Out
- 06Dividing the Responsibility
- 07Low Information, No Reaction
- 08The One-Line Boundary
- 09The Contact Grid
- 10Riding Out the Urge to Reach Out
- 11The Four Tests for a Message
- 12What You Steer By
- 13The Early List
- 14Small Reps of Self-Trust
Educational content — not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and not a substitute for a clinician when one is needed. Every manual opens with a safety page. If you are thinking about suicide, call or text 988 now.