Manual № 55 · Childhood emotional neglect

WhatWasMissing

The manual for childhood emotional neglect.

Nothing happened. That was the problem.

12 modules — for the adult who grew up with parents who were there, and not there

  1. 01Nothing Happened. That Was the Problem.
  2. 02A Plan for the Hard Days
  3. 03The Blank Where the Feeling Should Be
  4. 04The Empty Feeling
  5. 05Turning It On Yourself
  6. 06What You Needed Then, and What You Need Now
  1. 07The Person Who Never Needs Anything
  2. 08Letting Someone Close
  3. 09Your Own Children
  4. 10Your Parents, As They Are Now
  5. 11Grieving What Was Missing
  6. 12Keeping What You Have Built

Two editions

Themanual,orthemanualand the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how strong the evidence actually is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01Getting the Word Right
  2. 02The Body Gets There First
  3. 03The Record, Not the Memory
  4. 04The Feeling Under the Feeling
  5. 05The Kinder Voice
  6. 06The Rules You Were Given
  7. 07Unhooking From the Sentence
  1. 08Testing the Rule Instead of Arguing With It
  2. 09The Small Ask
  3. 10The Daily Check-In
  4. 11The Letter You Do Not Send
  5. 12Setting the Terms
  6. 13Rupture and Repair
  7. 14The Card for the Slide

Educational content — not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and not a substitute for a clinician when one is needed. Every manual opens with a safety page. If you are thinking about suicide, call or text 988 now.