Manual № 95 · Mending a strained parent and adult child relationship

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The manual for mending a strained parent and adult child relationship.

The years happened. What happens at the table from here is still being decided.

12 modules · for the parent or the adult child in a strained relationship, working alone or, when both want it and it is safe, together

  1. 01Two Adults Now
  2. 02When Mending Is Not the Goal
  3. 03Two Stories of the Same Family
  4. 04The Shoulds on Both Sides
  5. 05Owning Your Part, and an Apology That Lands
  6. 06The Conversation, and Listening to Understand
  1. 07Boundaries That Protect the Relationship
  2. 08Differences That Will Not Be Settled
  3. 09Grandchildren, Partners, and In-Laws
  4. 10When a Parent Grows Older
  5. 11Forgiveness Is Not the Same as Going Back
  6. 12Your Plan, and What to Do When It Slips

Two editions

The manual, or the manual and the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how good the support actually is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you have one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01Both Things at Once
  2. 02Naming the Distortion
  3. 03Two Timelines
  4. 04The Feeling Under the Reaction
  5. 05The Parts of an Apology
  6. 06Reflect Before You Respond
  7. 07Validation Without Agreement
  1. 08Asking for One Thing
  2. 09A Boundary Is Something You Do
  3. 10Out of the Triangle
  4. 11Your Values, Their Life
  5. 12Forgiveness as a Process
  6. 13When It Went Better
  7. 14Is What I Am Doing Working?

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