Manual № 91 · Alignment, cohesion and compromise in a couple
Same Direction
The manual for alignment, cohesion and compromise in a couple.
Not the same opinions. The same direction, and fair ways to get there.
12 modules · for both partners in a committed relationship who want to build a shared direction, working together or one of you alone
- 01Which Way Are We Going?
- 02When Agreement Is Not Really Agreement
- 03The Word We
- 04What You Are Building
- 05The Hope Under the Position
- 06Giving Ground Without Losing
- 07Who Decides What
- 08Fair Is Not Fifty-Fifty
- 09Money as a Joint Project
- 10Facing Outward as a Team
- 11Giving Something Up, and Getting Past It
- 12The Alignment Review and Your Written Plan
Two editions
The manual, or the manual and the toolkit.
Standard edition
The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.
Elite edition · most complete
Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how good the support actually is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.
Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you have one manual, every other one is 20% off.
Inside The Toolkit
- 01Values, Each Then Both
- 02The Hope Interview
- 03Interests Under Positions
- 04The Both-And Search
- 05Trades, Turns, and Trials
- 06The Tiebreak
- 07Owning a Task Whole
- 08Making Stress Ours
- 09The ABCDE of the Fairness Story
- 10Not Returning Fire
- 11Control or Connect
- 12Rituals That Say Us
- 13The Alignment Scale
- 14Dedication, Chosen
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