Manual № 38 · Low self-esteem and self-criticism

OnYourOwnSide

The manual for low self-esteem and self-criticism.

Learning to treat yourself like someone worth defending.

12 modules — for the person who has become their own harshest critic

  1. 01What Low Self-Esteem Actually Is
  2. 02When the Critic Turns Dangerous
  3. 03Where the Bottom Line Came From
  4. 04Rules for Living
  5. 05The Two Loops That Keep It Going
  6. 06Catching the Critic, and the Double Standard
  1. 07Building the Case for the Defense
  2. 08Testing the Rules
  3. 09A Kinder Voice That Is Not Soft
  4. 10Compliments, Asking, and Saying No
  5. 11Comparison and the Highlight Reel
  6. 12A New Bottom Line, and Staying on Your Own Side

Two editions

Themanual,orthemanualand the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how strong the evidence is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01Three Systems, and Which One Is Running
  2. 02The Courtroom
  3. 03The Continuum
  4. 04The Responsibility Pie
  5. 05Ask Instead of Assuming: the Survey
  6. 06Dropping the Safety Behaviors
  7. 07Unhooking from the Critic
  1. 08Where the Spotlight Points
  2. 09Soothing Rhythm Breathing and the Body First
  3. 10The Compassionate Other, and the Letter
  4. 11Standing Your Ground Without Turning It Up
  5. 12Taking In the Good
  6. 13Going Back to the Scene
  7. 14Acting Before the Confidence Arrives

Educational content — not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and not a substitute for a clinician when one is needed. Every manual opens with a safety page. If you are thinking about suicide, call or text 988 now.