Manual № 19 · Adult anger

ThePause

The manual for adult anger.

The space between the spark and the thing you regret.

12 modules — for the person whose anger is causing damage — module 11 is for a partner or family member

  1. 01Safety, and the Honest Inventory
  2. 02Mapping Your Own Escalation
  3. 03The Pause Itself
  4. 04What Was Underneath
  5. 05The Thinking That Fuels It
  6. 06The Load — Sleep, Drink, Pain, and the Rest
  1. 07Repair — The Skill Nobody Teaches
  2. 08Anger at Work, in Traffic, and With Strangers
  3. 09Children, and What They Are Learning
  4. 10The Old Injustice
  5. 11For a Partner or Family Member
  6. 12Keeping It

Two editions

Themanual,orthemanualand the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from — to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01What Already Works
  2. 02The Present, and What You Can Actually Move
  3. 03Doing Before Feeling
  4. 04What Actually Matters
  5. 05If This, Then That
  6. 06The Chain: A, B, C, D, E
  7. 07The Shapes Thinking Takes
  1. 08Testing It Rather Than Arguing With It
  2. 09Unhooking, and Making Room
  3. 10When the Feeling Is Too Big
  4. 11Turning the Volume Down
  5. 12The Kinder Voice
  6. 13Is This Getting You What You Want?
  7. 14Solving What Can Be Solved

Educational content — not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and not a substitute for a clinician when one is needed. Every manual opens with a safety page. If you are thinking about suicide, call or text 988 now.