Manual № 68 · Negotiation and asking for what you need
TheAsk
The manual for negotiation and asking for what you need.
The number is not the hard part. Staying in the room is the hard part.
12 modules — for the person who knows what to ask for and cannot get the words out
- 01What This Is, and What Is Already Free
- 02Where Asking Carries Real Risk
- 03What Your Body Does When You Ask
- 04The Days Before
- 05Preparation That Is Proportionate
- 06Say It, Then Stop Talking
- 07The Counteroffer, and the Pause
- 08Hearing No
- 09The Asks People Avoid Most
- 10When You Will See Them Tomorrow
- 11The Cost Is Not Evenly Distributed
- 12Your Next Ask, and the One After
Two editions
Themanual,orthemanualand the toolkit.
Standard edition
The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.
Elite edition · most complete
Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how good the evidence for it actually is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.
Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.
Inside The Toolkit
- 01What They Actually Want
- 02The Floor, the Target, and the Door
- 03What the Racing Heart Is For
- 04The Longer Exhale
- 05The Ladder
- 06Three Lines
- 07Eight Seconds
- 08The First Number, Honestly
- 09How You Move
- 10If They Say That, I Say This
- 11Out Loud, To A Person
- 12Saying What Is Happening
- 13Grading the Ask, Not the Answer
- 14Putting It Back Together
Educational content — not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and not a substitute for a clinician when one is needed. Every manual opens with a safety page. If you are thinking about suicide, call or text 988 now.