Manual № 84 · Parenting a teenager

Half Grown

The manual for parenting a teenager.

They are supposed to pull away. You are supposed to stay reachable.

12 modules · for the parent or caregiver of a 12 to 18 year old who feels the connection, the influence, or the control slipping

  1. 01The Job Has Changed
  2. 02When It Is More Than Normal
  3. 03The Story You Tell Yourself About Them
  4. 04Staying Close Without Crowding
  5. 05How Parents Actually Know
  6. 06Fewer Rules, Held Better
  1. 07The Fight You Keep Having
  2. 08Phones, Sleep and School
  3. 09Friends, Dating and Consent
  4. 10Alcohol, Vaping and Drugs
  5. 11After You Lose Your Temper
  6. 12Your Life, Your Co-Parent, and the Plan

Two editions

The manual, or the manual and the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how good the support actually is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01Checking the Forecast
  2. 02Emotion Coaching in Five Moves
  3. 03Reflect Before You Respond
  4. 04The First Ten Seconds After They Tell You
  5. 05What You Control, What You Influence
  6. 06Their Concern, Your Concern, Our Options
  7. 07Clear Limits, Small Consequences
  1. 08Notice What Is Going Right
  2. 09The Parent Pause
  3. 10The Repair Conversation
  4. 11Ask, Offer, Ask
  5. 12Protecting the Sleep Window
  6. 13Is It Working?
  7. 14What Is Already Going Right

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