Manual № 100 · Parenting on your own
One Pair of Hands
The manual for parenting on your own.
One parent can raise children well. No parent does it without help.
12 modules · for the mother or father raising children mostly or entirely alone, whatever the route that brought you here
- 01The Job, Named Plainly
- 02When It Is More Than Tired
- 03What Your Children Actually Need
- 04The Voice That Says You Are Failing Them
- 05Tired, or Burned Out
- 06Building a Village on Purpose
- 07Structure That Saves Energy
- 08Warmth and Limits, Simplified
- 09Help Without Carrying
- 10Money, Honestly
- 11The Other Parent, and Anyone New
- 12Your Plan, and the Backup Plan
Two editions
The manual, or the manual and the toolkit.
Standard edition
The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.
Elite edition · most complete
Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how good the support actually is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.
Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you have one manual, every other one is 20% off.
Inside The Toolkit
- 01Making the Invisible Load Visible
- 02Weighing Demands Against Resources
- 03The Specific Ask
- 04Guilt That Fits, Guilt That Does Not
- 05From Must to Prefer
- 06The Friend's Voice
- 07The Step-Away
- 08Repair After a Rupture
- 09Ten Minutes, Their Lead
- 10The Default Week
- 11One Problem, Five Steps
- 12What Matters Here, and What Can Slide
- 13When It Went Better
- 14Is This Getting You What You Want?
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