Manual № 97 · Co-parenting after separation

The Handoff

The manual for co-parenting after separation.

The marriage ended. The job of raising them together did not.

12 modules · for the separated parent sharing children with the other parent, whether or not the other parent is on board

  1. 01From Partners to Co-Parents
  2. 02When Cooperation Is the Wrong Goal
  3. 03What Children Need From the Two of You
  4. 04The Plan, the Schedule, and the Money
  5. 05Short, Factual, Courteous, Final
  6. 06The Handoff Itself
  1. 07Decisions and Two Different Houses
  2. 08The Story You Tell About Them
  3. 09Between Your Child and the Other Parent
  4. 10New Partners and the Days That Matter
  5. 11When Cooperation Keeps Failing
  6. 12The Long Run, in Writing

Two editions

The manual, or the manual and the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how good the support actually is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you have one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01Before You Press Send
  2. 02The Cool-Down Window
  3. 03The Explanation Pie
  4. 04Unhooking From the Thought
  5. 05The Parent You Mean to Be
  6. 06Accepting the Parent They Are
  7. 07The Structured Request
  1. 08Interests Under the Positions
  2. 09One Problem, Properly Solved
  3. 10The Exchanges That Went Fine
  4. 11Is It Working?
  5. 12Stepping Out of the Escalation Loop
  6. 13Parallel Lanes
  7. 14A Kinder Voice After a Hard Exchange

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