Manual № 98 · Helping your children through a divorce

Their Side of It

The manual for helping your children through a divorce.

The divorce is between the adults. Their side of it needs its own care.

12 modules · for a parent who is separating or recently divorced and wants to help their children through it, working alone or alongside the other parent

  1. 01Their Side of It
  2. 02Protection First, and When They Need More
  3. 03What Actually Puts Children at Risk
  4. 04Telling Them
  5. 05Age by Age
  6. 06Listening Without Fixing
  1. 07Out of the Middle
  2. 08Your Parenting in the First Year
  3. 09Two Homes, Seen From Their Side
  4. 10New Partners, and Going Slowly
  5. 11The Guilt, and Your Own Distress
  6. 12Your Plan, and When It Slips

Two editions

The manual, or the manual and the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how good the support actually is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you have one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01Name It Before You Fix It
  2. 02Say Back What You Heard
  3. 03Time That Is Theirs
  4. 04Anchors in Both Houses
  5. 05The Calm, Predictable Limit
  6. 06The Neutral Reply
  7. 07The Guilt Chain
  1. 08Calling the Distortion by Name
  2. 09The Weekly Check
  3. 10Steady Before You Speak
  4. 11Kinder Than the Verdict
  5. 12The Parent You Want to Have Been
  6. 13When It Went Better
  7. 14Is This Working, for Them?

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