Manual № 24 · Divorce and separation

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The manual for divorce and separation.

An ending handled well, one strand at a time.

12 modules — for the person going through it — module 11 is for a friend or family member

  1. 01Safety, Practicalities, and the First Fortnight
  2. 02The Grief That Nobody Calls Grief
  3. 03Which Position You Are In
  4. 04The Children
  5. 05The Other Parent — Building a Working Relationship
  6. 06Anger, Fairness, and Not Letting It Take the Years
  1. 07Money, Law, and Making Decisions While Unable to Think
  2. 08Rebuilding a Life
  3. 09New Relationships, and the Other Person's New Relationship
  4. 10When It Is High Conflict, or Worse
  5. 11For a Friend or Family Member
  6. 12Afterwards

Two editions

Themanual,orthemanualand the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from — to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01What Already Works
  2. 02The Present, and What You Can Actually Move
  3. 03Doing Before Feeling
  4. 04What Actually Matters
  5. 05If This, Then That
  6. 06The Chain: A, B, C, D, E
  7. 07The Shapes Thinking Takes
  1. 08Testing It Rather Than Arguing With It
  2. 09Unhooking, and Making Room
  3. 10When the Feeling Is Too Big
  4. 11Turning the Volume Down
  5. 12The Kinder Voice
  6. 13Is This Getting You What You Want?
  7. 14Solving What Can Be Solved

Educational content — not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and not a substitute for a clinician when one is needed. Every manual opens with a safety page. If you are thinking about suicide, call or text 988 now.