Manual № 80 · Caring for someone with dementia
Who They Still Are
The manual for caring for someone with dementia.
The person is still there. The illness is doing more of the talking.
12 modules · for the family carer of a parent, spouse, partner, or relative with dementia, at home or in care
- 01Who They Still Are
- 02When This Is Not the Right Tool on Its Own
- 03Behavior Is a Message
- 04Joining, Not Correcting
- 05The Same Question, and the Hard Hour
- 06"Someone Took It" and "I Won't"
- 07What You Tell Yourself
- 08Here and Not Here
- 09Safe Enough
- 10Help That Actually Helps
- 11Papers, and the Question of a Move
- 12A Life That Is Still Yours, and the Plan
Two editions
The manual, or the manual and the toolkit.
Standard edition
The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.
Elite edition · most complete
Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how good the support actually is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.
Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.
Inside The Toolkit
- 01Check the Body First
- 02Lower the Load
- 03Answer the Feeling, Not the Fact
- 04The Prompt Ladder
- 05Something to Do Together
- 06Catch the Distortion
- 07Unhook From the Thought
- 08Both Things Are True
- 09One Thing for You, Every Day
- 10The Step-Out
- 11When Is It Better?
- 12One Problem, Worked Through
- 13Is What I Am Doing Working?
- 14After You Snap
Close to this one
Educational content, not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and not a substitute for a clinician when one is needed. Every manual opens with a safety page. If you are thinking about suicide, call or text 988 now.