Manual № 34 · After a divorce or breakup

WhatYouBring

The manual for after a divorce or breakup.

What you carry out of it, and what you build next.

12 modules — for the person doing the work after a divorce or a breakup — module 12 has a section for someone watching them do it

  1. 01Before You Start
  2. 02Wisdom and Comparison
  3. 03Brooding Is Not Reflection
  4. 04Who You Were In It
  5. 05Your Half, Named Precisely
  6. 06What You Tolerated, and Why
  1. 07The Kinder Voice
  2. 08Letting Go of the Attachment, Not the Lesson
  3. 09The Contrast Trap
  4. 10Debts They Didn’t Create
  5. 11Evaluating the Whole Person
  6. 12How You Create Together

Two editions

Themanual,orthemanualand the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from — to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01What Already Works
  2. 02The Present, and What You Can Actually Move
  3. 03Doing Before Feeling
  4. 04What Actually Matters
  5. 05If This, Then That
  6. 06The Chain: A, B, C, D, E
  7. 07The Shapes Thinking Takes
  1. 08Testing It Rather Than Arguing With It
  2. 09Unhooking, and Making Room
  3. 10When the Feeling Is Too Big
  4. 11Turning the Volume Down
  5. 12The Kinder Voice
  6. 13Is This Getting You What You Want?
  7. 14Solving What Can Be Solved

Educational content — not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and not a substitute for a clinician when one is needed. Every manual opens with a safety page. If you are thinking about suicide, call or text 988 now.