Manual № 87 · Intimacy and sex after illness or treatment

New Terms

The manual for intimacy and sex after illness or treatment.

The old terms may not fit anymore. You can write new ones, together.

12 modules · for the person whose body has changed after illness or treatment, and for the partner reading alongside

  1. 01Nobody Mentioned This Part
  2. 02Stop Signs First
  3. 03Grieving the Way It Was
  4. 04Asking the People Who Treat You
  5. 05Talking With Your Partner
  6. 06Wider Than Before
  1. 07The Body You Live In Now
  2. 08Pain, Dryness, and Low Energy
  3. 09When Arousal Works Differently
  4. 10For the Partner
  5. 11Single, and Dating Again
  6. 12Your New Terms, Written Down

Two editions

The manual, or the manual and the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how good the support actually is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01Loss, Then Value
  2. 02Desire Can Follow
  3. 03The Question Card
  4. 04The Menu
  5. 05The Touch Ladder
  6. 06Back to Sensation
  7. 07ABCDE for Body Thoughts
  1. 08Opposite Action for Hiding
  2. 09A Kinder Voice
  3. 10Speaker and Listener
  4. 11Energy Windows
  5. 12Breaking the Pain Loop
  6. 13Two Hats
  7. 14Scaling and the Next Small Sign

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