Manual № 57 · Low sexual desire and performance anxiety

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The manual for low sexual desire and performance anxiety.

Desire, pressure, and the spectatoring that kills both. For individuals and couples.

12 modules — for the person, or couple, whose sex life has become a source of anxiety or distance

  1. 01What Is Actually Going On
  2. 02Ruling Things Out, and the Ground Rules
  3. 03The Accelerator and the Brake
  4. 04Spectatoring: Watching Instead of Being There
  5. 05Taking the Goal Off the Table
  6. 06Graded Touch, Step by Step
  1. 07Talking About It Without a Fight
  2. 08Pursue and Withdraw
  3. 09Erection and Ejaculation, From the Anxiety Side
  4. 10Pain, Fear, and Guarding
  5. 11Desire in a Real Life
  6. 12Keeping It: The Written Plan

Two editions

Themanual,orthemanualand the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from and how good the evidence for it actually is, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01Finding the Brake
  2. 02Willingness Before Wanting
  3. 03Coming Back to the Body
  4. 04Getting Out of the Spectator's Chair
  5. 05Non-Demand Touch, Staged
  6. 06The Stop That Costs Nothing
  7. 07Asking Instead of Hinting
  1. 08The Bid and the Turn
  2. 09The Rules You Did Not Know You Had
  3. 10Learning Where the Threshold Is
  4. 11Approaching What Hurts, Gradually
  5. 12When Alone Works and Together Does Not
  6. 13Planning It Without Killing It
  7. 14When It Comes Back

Educational content — not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and not a substitute for a clinician when one is needed. Every manual opens with a safety page. If you are thinking about suicide, call or text 988 now.