Manual № 05 · Attachment and love

OpenHands

The manual for attachment and love.

Telling the difference between holding on and being held.

12 modules — for the person doing the work

  1. 01Two Different Systems
  2. 02How the Alarm Got Its Settings
  3. 03Your Own Pattern in Motion
  4. 04The Cycle You Are Both In
  5. 05Reading Your Own Alarm
  6. 06Protest, Punish, or Ask
  1. 07When the Alarm Says Go
  2. 08What Love Actually Is
  3. 09Telling the Difference
  4. 10Becoming Your Own Ground
  5. 11Two People, One Cycle
  6. 12Choosing, Repeatedly

Two editions

Themanual,orthemanualand the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from — to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01What Already Works
  2. 02The Present, and What You Can Actually Move
  3. 03Doing Before Feeling
  4. 04What Actually Matters
  5. 05If This, Then That
  6. 06The Chain: A, B, C, D, E
  7. 07The Shapes Thinking Takes
  1. 08Testing It Rather Than Arguing With It
  2. 09Unhooking, and Making Room
  3. 10When the Feeling Is Too Big
  4. 11Turning the Volume Down
  5. 12The Kinder Voice
  6. 13Is This Getting You What You Want?
  7. 14Solving What Can Be Solved

Educational content — not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and not a substitute for a clinician when one is needed. Every manual opens with a safety page. If you are thinking about suicide, call or text 988 now.