Manual № 08 · Infidelity in a marriage

SlowRepair

The manual for infidelity in a marriage.

What repair actually requires, from both sides.

12 modules — for either partner — each module says which

  1. 01For Both — What Just Happened to You
  2. 02For Both — The First Thirty Days
  3. 03For the Partner Who Was Unfaithful — Ending It and Coming Clean
  4. 04For the Betrayed Partner — What You Need, and What You Don't
  5. 05For Both — The Questions
  6. 06For Both — Deciding (Not Yet)
  1. 07For Both — Rebuilding Trust: Transparency, Not Surveillance
  2. 08For the Betrayed Partner — Triggers and the Images
  3. 09For Both — Anger, Grief, and the Story of the Marriage
  4. 10For Both — Sex and the Body Afterward
  5. 11For Both — Forgiveness, Faith, and What It Is Not
  6. 12For Both — The Long Arc and Your Plan

Two editions

Themanual,orthemanualand the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from — to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01What Already Works
  2. 02The Present, and What You Can Actually Move
  3. 03Doing Before Feeling
  4. 04What Actually Matters
  5. 05If This, Then That
  6. 06The Chain: A, B, C, D, E
  7. 07The Shapes Thinking Takes
  1. 08Testing It Rather Than Arguing With It
  2. 09Unhooking, and Making Room
  3. 10When the Feeling Is Too Big
  4. 11Turning the Volume Down
  5. 12The Kinder Voice
  6. 13Is This Getting You What You Want?
  7. 14Solving What Can Be Solved

Educational content — not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and not a substitute for a clinician when one is needed. Every manual opens with a safety page. If you are thinking about suicide, call or text 988 now.