Manual № 46 · Codependency and people-pleasing

WhereYouEnd

The manual for codependency and people-pleasing.

Boundaries, and the guilt that comes with learning them.

12 modules — for the person who has organized their life around keeping everyone else okay

  1. 01What This Pattern Actually Is
  2. 02When This Is Not the Right Frame
  3. 03Where You Learned It
  4. 04What Do You Actually Want
  5. 05Guilt Is Not Evidence
  6. 06The Resentment Cycle
  1. 07What a Boundary Actually Is
  2. 08Saying No Out Loud
  3. 09Tolerating Disapproval
  4. 10Helping, Enabling, and Someone Who Is Using
  5. 11Rebuilding a Life of Your Own
  6. 12Staying Where You Are Now

Two editions

Themanual,orthemanualand the toolkit.

Standard edition

$39

The full program: all 12 modules, with the exercises, logs, and checklists that save as you go. Everything you need to do the work.

Elite edition · most complete

$69

Everything in Standard, plus The Toolkit, 14 techniques drawn from across the evidence base, each labeled with where it comes from, to use alongside this program rather than instead of it. With original diagrams throughout.

Start with Standard if you would rather. You can upgrade to Elite at any time for the $30 difference, and nothing you have written is lost. And once you own one manual, every other one is 20% off.

Inside The Toolkit

  1. 01The Two Circles
  2. 02The Boundary in Three Parts
  3. 03Fight, Flight, Freeze, and the Fourth One
  4. 04Directions Instead of Approval
  5. 05Asking For Something
  6. 06Holding Position
  7. 07Riding the Guilt Curve
  1. 08Surfing the Rescue Urge
  2. 09The Shapes This Thinking Takes
  3. 10The Real Price of Yes
  4. 11What Your Behavior Is Teaching
  5. 12The Needs Inventory
  6. 13Unhooking From "I Am Being Selfish"
  7. 14Scheduling Yourself Back In

Educational content — not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and not a substitute for a clinician when one is needed. Every manual opens with a safety page. If you are thinking about suicide, call or text 988 now.